Do you know that love is not the most important ingredient in marriage?
Even if you married the love of your life just like Jennifer Lopez did, you could still be unhappy and be divorced in 2 years.
I chuckle when I remember Seal, and Heidi Klum. They used to reenact their wedding vows every year in their marriage. Well, they too got divorced after a while.
Despite the fixation on love by romance novels and Hollywood movies, love is a tiny ingredient in a marriage.
Just stay with me ladies as I unpack this. Bring out your notebooks and pens for a free Masterclass from a Relationship Coach!
To begin with, wasting time and money on expensive wedding ceremonies do not equate to marital bliss.
An expensive wedding is simply a show-off party for friends and family while the matter at hand is serious business.
You have spent 16 years getting an education with another 3-4 years in certification for your career or business. Yet, you foolishly and casually want to base the most important decision of your life on love, looks, size of genitals, religion, ethnicity, or height!
He could be handsome, tall, and great in bed but also a psychopath and a narcissist.
He could have 6-pack abs, and speak good English but he could be one who does prioritize obligations and may totally lack empathy.
You too could be figure 8, beautiful, and sexy, but mentally lazy, socially retarded and quick to anger.
I pity this generation of women who seem to have it all: career, business, wealth, looks, independence, and influence.
They have so much going for them but they have trouble understanding what marriage means.
Some only play the wedding day game: hall rental, (asoebi), girls change of clothes, catering, MC, comedian, souvenirs, and honeymoon.
Marriage is more than that.
Marriage is boring and ordinary.
It is based on structure and rules.
You probably didn’t get the memo because you were busy watching Netflix, Showmax, Hollywood movies, and multiple Soap Operas.
This is what I advise all young women going forward. Apply the same gusto that you attached to your education to your marriage.
Hire a Relationship/Marriage Coach before you even pick a date for your wedding not to talk about booking a hall.
You must commit to 3-6 months of counselling and training in the University of Marriage.
Only then will you be somewhat equipped and not have to struggle in marriage.
Love is good but structure with discipline is better.
For free, here are some of the things you must learn before your wedding day. They include:
Family Government
Family Finance
Emotional Intelligence
Health
Extended Family
Kitchen Affairs
Home Management.
I will leave it at that till next week.
By Mubo Okosun.
Women’s Editor.
Your comments are welcome on @mooborscounsellingroom@gmail.com
