We’re on the home stretch this week to provide relationship advice to single and available professionals aged 35 and above.
Let’s get down to business straight away, shall we? Mind you girl, this is a Masterclass of calming down to learn how to attract and keep a mature man for the most important role in your life. This is about deliberate and intentional search for serious and ready candidates for matrimony.
When you are single and searching 35 and above it is assumed that you have stopped playing games with your relationships.
Hopefully you are ready to meet interesting men.
So, here goes:
- Be open to new hobbies. Instead of staying home, and complaining, why not take up volunteering with NGOs for lost causes. Join fundraising drives, walkathons and attend public launches within your town.
- Revamp your look. Change your dowdy wardrobe collection. Stop dressing like a tramp or a dowdy lady. Spruce up your clothes collection by adding vibrant colours. If you’re overweight, try and shed some weight.
- Positive thoughts and affirmations. You definitely cannot be despondent and carry it on your face. You must encourage yourself by pumping yourself with positivity and daily kindness. Positive thoughts and words are like fragrance that attract good vibes. Make sure you emit positive aura.
- Leave your comfort zone. Start taking baby steps away from your usual practices. Don’t stay glued to your bedroom with passive entertainment. Socialise more and don’t bury yourself in work.
- Have an accountability partner. This is the time to seek out older or younger people with massive social skills. Hang around them and pick up worthy tips on getting along with people.
- Join new groups/associations. Even your professional alumni, old school/uni are good picks. Also Social media parades some interesting events such as Book clubs, painting, salsa class, health and fitness groups offline or online.
- Register for coaching. Consider seeking the professional help of relationship coaches to audit your past relationships and learn why they petered out. Take heed of their expert advice and change your ways this time.
- Attend Faith-based events and programs to meet and make new friends of like minds. Such public events are opportunities for meeting people.
- Be friendly and approachable. No more aloofness.This is not the time for committee of friends to approve everything you do. Go solo sometimes to art galleries, movie theaters, shopping malls or farmers markets.
- Learn how to cook and care for people. Enlist the help of professional cooks to teach you how to make different ethnic dishes. Be kind and courteous to elderly people in your space. Visit them and package treats for them. These sets of people are natural matchmakers with endless supply of potential suitors.
Which one resonates with you Ms Smart Lady?
Will you consider enlisting professional matchmaking agency in future?
Please send your comments and feedback on this and other topics to mooborscounsellingroom@gmail.com.
By Mubo Okosun
Women’s Editor
