Apparently, we’re still dwelling on Valentine’s Day season of love and relationships. And we’re further examining various strategies to promote matrimony among eligible professionals among Gen Z. There are some of them bewildered by their singleness.
Family coaches like yours truly are alarmed by the rise of smart women and men unmarried in their 30s. They are forever searching for specs, soulmates and love of their lives.
I recall these occurrences many years ago in the only federal government owned national television station at the time. It was commonplace to find male and female newscasters married to each other. In fact, the founders of a popular private television station making waves today started out as professional colleagues at that station. Several television presenters back then met their husbands at work.
Same situation occured in the entertainment industry. One of such top A list actors married each other. One adopted her maiden name for acting gigs. Both of them were talented and earned accolades for their respective movies. They have established a production outfit.
I also learnt about two medical doctors that met during the National Youth Service from different parts of the country. They got married after NYSC, returned to Lagos to open a medical centre together.
I also met a couple that established a finance house together after working together at a commercial bank. She’s a lawyer with robust business acumen, while he’s a sound administrator. The finance house has birthed more businesses.
What about couples running businesses together as dramatists, artists and entertainers. Religious folks naturally start their ministries with their spouses and children.
So, why can’t Gen Z folks choose this approach by shopping for potential partners from their marketplace? There, you are doing career or business together day in day out. This close interaction enables you to develop rapport and appreciate each other’s expertise and temperament. You regularly brainstorm together on intricate projects and sometimes travel on work trips.
Yet, most women tend to look down on their male colleagues, preferring to shop for suitors in an outside pool. Sometimes, it’s a case of familiarity breeding contempt. Ladies, why not flip that script and be smart and savvy like a business pro?
Here are pointers to snagging a life partner in your office or business:
Be courteous: Always put your best foot forward. Don’t be rude or unruly to your male colleagues even though you’re on the same pay grade.
Be open: Never say never. Don’t be fixated on specs, sparks, tribe or other such considerations.
Be friendly: Be a sport, not a snob at work. You never know how things can swing. Show your feminine side and celebrate people’s special moments.
Be courageous: Don’t swear off certain experiences. Try out new things. Those boomers that met their significant other at work were courageous and bold.
Will you try this approach? Do you know anyone who got hitched in the workplaces? Please join the conversation with your comments and feedback to mooborscounsellingroom@gmail.com
By Mubo Okosun
Women’s Editor
