I had decided to maintain a studied silence for some reason when this story broke out a few weeks ago.
For one, I have spent many decades around the sun, and witnessed countless situations, and scenarios.
For another, I have garnered almost 4 decades in the University of Marriage. And I’m still taking courses.
Really, no one ever stops learning in this all important institution.
I’ll start by doing a brief recap of the issues at stake in this longstanding relationship that started in Festac Town.
We’re told that Annie Macaulay met Innocent Idibia at 15, while he was 26. He was then a struggling but talented member of a Boys Band, Plantation Boyz.
She invested so much emotional, and physical support for his burgeoning musical career at that time.
Story had it that at one point, Annie stole her father’s motorcycle.
She sold it to fund one of his recordings.
Such was the lack and penury that surrounded Innocent Idibia at that time.
That was then, but here we are today. Innocent Idibia, aka TuFace is a billionaire music superstar.
TuBaba has also gone ahead to have multiple Baby Mamas with 5 children before getting married to Annie Macaulay.
She entered into marriage with him despite the evidence and fruits of his philandering staring her in the face.
She herself later had two daughters for him.
One can only imagine the chaos and depravity of that marriage union of two supposed lovebirds and soulmates.
Can you imagine a superstar with demanding mother, siblings, multiple ex lovers, inlaws, aunties, uncles, and grandparents.
Managing these as well as music and business must have taken a toll on anyone’s mental and physical health.
But TuBaba did it with so much aplomb all this while because new babies were not added to the mix.
And award winning album projects kept on being rolled out.
This was the situation with the many women and children of Idibia villa until a few weeks ago. So whatever went wrong in the cozy confines of Idibia ville?
This is what we will attempt to decode this week on Women’s Hub.
Here’s my take. Annie should have known that she was entering the lion’s den by marrying Innocent Idibia. And she needed to have a lion’s heart to stay married to him. And I don’t think she had the spunk to acquire one.
She should have been advised by strong female mentors to sit out the marriage offer when TuFace proposed to her.
They should have remained friends and cherished the memories.
True, she suffered in the trenches with him, but this cannot be the only payment for her. You don’t marry out of pity.
My take is that Annie and Innocent were not meant to get married because they both had too much baggage to start with. I wish them well in their separation and divorce.
Here are also some marriage coaching tips for whom it may concern:
- Not every relationship ends in marriage
- Love is not always enough
- Love is the least ingredient in marriage
- Self esteem cannot be bought at ShopRite
- Morning makes the day
- You can’t change anybody
- Don’t ignore red flags in relationship
- Structure is more important than love
- Too many cooks spoil the broth
- Family structure of a spouse is important as well
- If it’s not working you can’t patch it
- Last last, everyone will be okay
Please send me your comments and feedback on this and other topics to mooborscounsellingroom@gmail.com.
By Mubo Okosun
Women’s Editor
