Are You Single and Searching over 35:7 Steps to Finding a Life Partner in 6 months. Part 2.

We continue this week with our discourse on a social problem in the society right now.
Why do we have a proliferation of brilliant, successful and beautiful
women aged 35 and above still
single and searching for life partners?

Women’s Hub went to town and discovered more findings.
You might have to revisit last week’s article to refresh your memory. Weddings are contracted every week in our urban centres. Just check out our mosques, churches, civil registries and event centres.
They are packed most weekends with gaily dressed ‘Aso Ebi’ ladies! Alas! women 35 and above are few and far between as brides at such events.

We found that some ladies over 35 and above display the following characteristics in their relationships. These behaviors unknowingly preclude them from being chosen as life partners.

Here we go:

Too much baggage: Women in their 30s have been there done that. They have dated, travelled and possess various life experiences. If not handled well, these could be huge disadvantages in new relationships. Some have been known to vilify innocent men for the transgressions of past liaisons.
Independent label: Because some of them have been living alone for so long, solo life is ingrained in them. Some have forgotten how to share their lives, thoughts and dreams with anyone.
Always driven: Some women in this age gap just don’t know how to switch off and relax. It’s 24/7 adrenaline pump for some of them in their careers and businesses. They haven’t got the memo for reflective relationships.
Not feminine anymore: Because of their physical beauty and financial accomplishments, some women have neglected or forgotten how to be feminine. This attitude robs them of successful determination of their relationships. Some avoid feminine care packages for partners and loved ones.

Wants marriage without being wives: Such women openly desire to be married but send out conflicting signals of aloofness. High maintenance, too driven, pressure cooker lifestyle, not knowing when to shutdown or push back.
Not calm enough: Building a relationship takes time and this is a scarce commodity for 35 and above. Some tend to speed things up quickly without giving enough time to acquaint with the guy. Some men are put off by this pressure to commit immediately.
Self absorbed: Being alone for so long may make someone to be full of themselves. Some are unable to make conversations about topics beyond their business and career. Some are shallow in their thinking and world view.

Women’s Hub is committed to airing societal problems and to proffer solutions too. We shall conclude next week by dishing out worthy strategies and hacks to transform every single and searching 35+ lady into desirable matrimonial candidates.