It is well known that infertility in couples brings with it pains, anguish and hopelessness. Today, science and technology methods have brought about diverse approaches to fertility and conception. Such that barrenness is no longer as total as the days of yore starting with the introduction of IVF and other medical assistances. These were largely unavailable for infertile women in the times of our parents.
Surrogacy is one of the novel pathways to fertility offered to couples struggling to produce their own children.
This pathway has helped countless couples to experience the joy of motherhood.
For those unversed in such matters, surrogacy involves hiring another woman as birth mother for your children. This involves the search or sourcing for a healthy woman, eggs, sperm, medical tests and care during and after delivery. Money changes hands in the process.
It’s a herculan and precision based project requiring finance, trust and emotional overdrive. Some notable professional women such as writers, actresses, lawyers, finance experts have publicly announced that their children were conceived through surrogacy.
They are thankful that at last they too
are able to experience the joy of motherhood like other women.
Such women choose surrogacy as a last resort when other interventions have failed. So it’s kinda surprising that some members of the woke generation are now choosing surrogacy as the first option.
The thinking is that pregnancy is such a taxing and difficult process that they want to outsource it. Like you outsource your cooking, laundry, childcare and transportation.
So we’re asking should surrogacy be a cosmetic or medical procedure? Should it be a casual procedure for otherwise healthy women to trifle with?
This thinking started with a newly married lady, an influencer, who deemed herself too busy with professional pursuits to add pregnancy to the mix. According to her, even though she doesn’t have medical problems, she’s going to have her children through surrogacy. Her body, her choice.
Such views have rankled the genuine patrons of assisted fertility procedures. These women have experienced several medical challenges and procedures before they are introduced to surrogacy as the last option. They have endured painful and degrading interventions without results.
Surrogacy shouldn’t be viewed as cosmetic solutions to over indulgent women. It’s not a fashion project to maintain your physical attributes or endowments.
It should be the last resort for couples desirous of children after all else has failed. It’s a medical hope for those who have tried everything and still remained painfully childless. It’s an answered prayer for those sleepless nights of anguish and despair. It shouldn’t be another woke tool of self adulation.
What do you think ladies?
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By Mubo Okosun
Women’s Editor.
