Just because some people can purchase data, and surf online, they think they possess unbridled access to the lives of others.
They literally think that they can pontificate on issues and matters that they have no jurisdiction over.
Which is why I’m the one here to drag those hypocritical, jobless and caustic online in-laws today.
I’m ready to give them their comeuppance because their nasty habits are infuriating and needless.
This is just to let you know that I believe in the mantra ‘Live and let live.’ I insist that it is not everything you must comment on, and drag like a pack of rats online.
Don’t you know that some things may just be above your pay grade, and that some cultures may actually be alien to you because of your background and limited exposure?
Your ignorance should not now elicit demeaning and disparaging remarks all in the name of trending.
If you’re like me, a bonafide South West indigene, polygamy is as commonplace as rice and beans. It is the culture, and way of life and so many people were raised in such households. Know this and know peace. Some offsprings of such arrangements have grown up to revisit it, while others have steered clear of it. It’s their choice.
It was the norm in those days for royal fathers, influential people, big time farmers, and merchants to practice polygamy.
My grandfather and father practiced polygamy in their time. It was an open arrangement, and everyone knew their time and place, very much unlike
the largely monogamous men of today with multiple side chicks and baby mamas.
Who’s really fooling who?
There was this story of a supposedly pious monogamous man who lived in Ikoyi, a high brow part of Lagos. It was said that he strolled with his wife after dinner most evenings. Such was his devotion, and love for his wife.
Every wife in the neighborhood nagged their husbands ceaselessly over their lack of romance because of him.
That was until the man suffered a stroke, and passed on suddenly.
It was soon time for the burial ceremony. When it was time for the dust to dust rites, 2 other women showed up with children in tow.
The late man’s family members knew of his side family, and they insisted that they must also perform the last rites for their father. The children bore close resemblance to the children of the beloved wife in the house. He had also left choice properties for them in his will.
So why do we have online spats by busybodies? I see it as taking Panadol for someone else’s headache.
I also noticed that some women are beatified by the woke online in-laws as Queen this, and that for leaving their marriages on account of polygamy, while others are being railed upon for daring to be married to polygamous men.
My take is that Polygamy is not evil once the man in question is capable of taking care of such.
My advice is for jobless online in-laws to get a life of their own. They should immediately stop stoking fires whose origin they do not know.
Allow those who want to practice polygamy to do so with their full chest.
And learn to mind your business. Period.
That’s where we leave it till next week.
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By Mubo Okosun
Women’s Editor.
I suppose your observations here resonate. Polygamy is matter of choice and sometimes a matter of faith and belief system. As you observed, those who have such preferences must be accommodated subject to the proviso which you gave; if they are up to it. But faith based polygamy is often not allowed as it is outside the teaching of our Lord JesusChrist. Thanks.
Dr. Boniface Chizea