“You Too Soft”: What Happens When Men Choose to Change. It always starts small. One man says he’ll be back home by 7pm to bathe his child cue side-eyes in the group chat.Another shares that he’s been in therapy for three months, and someone chuckles, “Hope say na woman therapist dey help you, sha?”Another posts…
In March 2025, I decided to “kill two birds with one stone.” I planned a convenient and strategic itinerary that allowed me to participate at an academic conference (March 20 – 21, 2025) at the Jomo Kenyatta University of Agriculture and Technology (popularly known as JKUAT), in Nairobi, Kenya. I also planned to attend the…
In the 100 pages of 200 to 300, IBB, as we fondly called him covers matters of relevance and continuing consequences to a nation that he had the opportunity to govern for 8 years as undisputed leader. He called himself president even though we did not elect him. We let that slide. It did not…
Part 2: The Hustle We Worshipped There’s a look some men wear that isn’t quite exhaustion, but something close. A kind of restless sharpness in the eyes. Alert. Ambitious. Slightly haunted. The look of a man who has learned how to keep moving, even when everything in him is begging for pause. From Surulere to…
Recently, it was reported on social media that a young man lost his heavily pregnant wife in Lagos. This tragic incident reportedly happened because of his inability to deposit half a million Naira for her treatment at a private hospital.He thereafter went on a social media rant accusing the private hospital of negligence and wickedness….
Part 1: What We Were Told a Man Should Be They never really say it outright. What they give you instead are looks. Tones. Phrases passed down like family recipes. “Be a man.”“Don’t talk too much.”“You’re the first son—you know what that means.” So, you learn. You learn how to hold your breath and call…
Recently, a lowly placed woman was recorded by a so-called human rights advocate and posted online without her consent or approval.Her crime according to the human rights guru was bringing her underage daughter to clean alongside her in the wee hours of the morning. For your information, our lady activist is living a cushy life…
When I envisioned this role play in January, my goal was to release it in March, a month dedicated to celebrating women in leadership and advocating for greater inclusion in governance. The message is clear: we cannot afford friction between the men who dominate leadership and the few women elected to serve. Little did I…
The last one week has been full of ups and downs. Only Charles Dickens’ opening lines in: “A Tale of Two Cities” could adequately sum up the emotions and the turmoil, and the turbulence of the last one week. Dickens wrote: “It was the best of times. It was the worst of times.” These, my…
Women have long been described as divisive and unsupportive of each other. The reading from men in public spaces is that networking and alliances are routinely forged to advance mutual causes and desires. Even political enemies who have spewed invectives against each other do not see anything wrong in collaborating when necessary in order to…
