How We Wear Ourselves – Final Chapter Nobody tells you how much you’ll have to wear just to be seen. Before you even dress, before the shoes or the scarf or the crisp agbada, there are other things you’re already wearing.Like posture.Like pride.Like that smile that says “I’m doing well” even when you’re not.Like the…
It is well known that infertility in couples brings with it pains, anguish and hopelessness. Today, science and technology methods have brought about diverse approaches to fertility and conception. Such that barrenness is no longer as total as the days of yore starting with the introduction of IVF and other medical assistances. These were largely…
How We Wear Ourselves – Part 3 There’s something that happens when a Nigerian name enters a room before its owner.People pause. Frown. Repeat. Misspell. Apologise. Ask for “a shorter version.”And slowly, over time, we begin to edit ourselves. You start life as Chijioke, and by university, you’re CJ.You were born Oluwadamilola, but now your…
It’s a mixed bag really for women development during the two year anniversary of the current administration. President Bola Ahmed Tinubu appointed professional women from different sectors as Ministers into the Federal Executive Council. This is the highest decision making organisation in the nation. Some of their portfolios include Culture/Creative Economy, Trade, FCT, Foreign Affairs…
How Nigerian Men Are Styling Freedom, One Shape-Up at a TimeHow We Wear Ourselves – Part 2b There was a time still very much alive in many corners when the Nigerian man had exactly one hairstyle: low cut, no wahala. Clean. Modest. Predictable. A little boring.But safe. Safe for school. Safe for church. Safe for…
Let’s set the records straight. Faith in God is not some cosmic insurance policy against trouble. It doesn’t hand you a premium-free pass through life’s potholes, heartbreaks, or hospital beds. If anything, faith makes you a prime target for the kind of suffering that leaves you asking tough questions in the dark. Real faith isn’t…
Recently News outlets were abuzz with videos of a highly placed individual being violently shoved by his wife. People were outraged, but they called it playful stunts. He sucked it up and still carried his official engagements. This posture certainly doesn’t fit the narrative of gender based violence in homes which has largely focused on…
How We Wear Ourselves – Part 2aFor the women who endured kpatewo, wore gel like armour, and now rotate lace-fronts and twist-outs like jazz. This one’s for you. It starts with the wooden cutting comb. You know the one brownish red, shaped like an instrument of spiritual warfare, with teeth so close together they might…
About a week ago, I made a post titled: “Faith Doesn’t Prevent Storms—It Anchors You in Them.” One of the comments came from a pastor friend, who said, “FAITH IS WHAT YOU TRULY ALLOWED OR ACCEPTED.”I replied, saying if that were entirely true, then it would make us God! I also added this:“Let’s not overestimate…
Women are the natural go-to people for caregiving in the society. They are gifted to care for their partners, parents, children, siblings, and sometimes, religious leaders in their communities. They undertake these jobs while pursuing their career or business endeavors. The tendency for women is that all too often they forget to care for themselves…
