Final Chapter We began this series with a quiet confession: that most Nigerian men are carrying more than they can say.In Part 1, we sat in that silence—the performance of manhood, the expectations passed down like heirlooms wrapped in shame. In Part 2, we exposed the hustle that became identity. The grind that didn’t just…
This is my take on the herd mentality that is prevalent in the 21st century. It occurs mainly amongst supposedly educated, smart, and exposed young people. They hop on trends, hog puerile issues, mutilate salient matters, and project victim mentality. I know I may be dragged or canceled because of the veracity of this article…
I am choosing this title to write about today for many reasons. I was doing my Advanced Levels in 1975, when I first came across this deep, sweet flowing prose by John Milton. The Poem is essentially the story of creation, the building of a beautiful garden for the enjoyment of Adam and Eve, and…
The film ‘Love in every word,’ directed and produced by Omoni Oboli, an ace Nollywood filmmaker has undoubtedly broken all viewing records on YouTube.Even though it’s not the best film that has emerged from the stables of this filmmaker, and others in the industry, it has garnered immense cultural appropriations akin to a movement. Maybe…
“You Too Soft”: What Happens When Men Choose to Change. It always starts small. One man says he’ll be back home by 7pm to bathe his child cue side-eyes in the group chat.Another shares that he’s been in therapy for three months, and someone chuckles, “Hope say na woman therapist dey help you, sha?”Another posts…
In March 2025, I decided to “kill two birds with one stone.” I planned a convenient and strategic itinerary that allowed me to participate at an academic conference (March 20 – 21, 2025) at the Jomo Kenyatta University of Agriculture and Technology (popularly known as JKUAT), in Nairobi, Kenya. I also planned to attend the…
In the 100 pages of 200 to 300, IBB, as we fondly called him covers matters of relevance and continuing consequences to a nation that he had the opportunity to govern for 8 years as undisputed leader. He called himself president even though we did not elect him. We let that slide. It did not…
Part 2: The Hustle We Worshipped There’s a look some men wear that isn’t quite exhaustion, but something close. A kind of restless sharpness in the eyes. Alert. Ambitious. Slightly haunted. The look of a man who has learned how to keep moving, even when everything in him is begging for pause. From Surulere to…
Recently, it was reported on social media that a young man lost his heavily pregnant wife in Lagos. This tragic incident reportedly happened because of his inability to deposit half a million Naira for her treatment at a private hospital.He thereafter went on a social media rant accusing the private hospital of negligence and wickedness….
Part 1: What We Were Told a Man Should Be They never really say it outright. What they give you instead are looks. Tones. Phrases passed down like family recipes. “Be a man.”“Don’t talk too much.”“You’re the first son—you know what that means.” So, you learn. You learn how to hold your breath and call…
