Some women are known to restrict their husbands’ access to their children after separation.
Some like to totally alienate their partners by relocating to distant places. Others tend to demonize their exes in front of their kids. Others use divorce as a means of settling past scores with their former spouses.
Unbeknownst to these ladies, these actions of theirs can lead to raising a generation of children who struggle with managing adult relationships.
A concerning trend is emerging today, where some young individuals are cutting ties with their parents, citing mental health concerns.
A young lady boldly called out her parents on social media using unsavoury language to depict family dealings.
Others are opting to remain childfree or single due to family trauma.
Some are even limiting their lives to work and religious obligations, totally avoiding personal relationships.
This raises questions about the potential consequences of raising a generation that excels professionally but struggles with personal relationships and family dynamics.
What happens if everyone chooses to remain single or childfree, who will then carry on family traditions and values?
The Western emphasis on independence and individual rights can sometimes lead to a lack of intergenerational connection and support.
This cultural shift is being adopted by some young Nigerians, despite the importance of family ties in African cultures.
In contrast to this behaviour, young women from Asian and Arab societies still prioritize family collegiality, where members support one another and share resources. Relationships are factored into career or business endeavours among these groups of people.
As we navigate the complexities of modern relationships in this technological and information age, it’s important to consider the potential impact on our collective well-being and the values we pass on to future generations.
Please join the conversation.
Do you have family members that have deliberately distanced themselves from everyone?
Do you have single nieces and nephews that have decided to stay single and child free?
Do you have female cousins or friends that celebrate Father’s Day as if they are men?
Do you have weak willed, soppy, mentally challenged friends or family members that have cut off their actual parents or partners?
Let’s keep talking about this.
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By Mubo Okosun
Women’s Editor
